Who needs to be urgent for me?

My family knows there is no one I put ahead of them.
If they want to bank on someone, choose anyone, it will be me.
But all the things that I ask of them, are never ever done.
And if I get what I want from them, it is because I forced them.

My husband knows that I am his slave.
If he needs a solid structure to lean on, it will be me.
But all the things I need as wife, are never just given to me
And if I get what I want from him, it is because I begged him.

My family knows that I am fierce, just to make them be brave.
If they ever want to learn something, it will be me who will teach them.
But when I want them to behave like friends, I often get the brats in them.
And then its not worth anything when they are not good to she who made them.

My husband knows that I am loving, just to make his life be grand
If he ever wants or needs anything, I will give him his every demand
But when I want a loving companion, I get a stubborn man
And there is no kindness no love no wit no friend, just his bitter angst!

My family knows that I am living on the same time line
If they want a legacy from me, I too should have one from them
But all the direction, all the years that I am a mother not just a dame
And all the missing bits I need filled in, will be just lost into thin air

My husband knows that I lived with him to make my life better
If he wants a laugh from me, I should have one from him too
But all the chats and days and times that make me wife not just a dame
And the joy I needed in our lives, were smiles he never gave to float into my air.